We all know the struggle to look flawless is very real. The number of products that exist for different parts of the body, from your hair to face to skin.
When you have pimples or spots, you try out products to get rid of them, concealing your face and all, just to look flawless.
You know how you wish your skin was blemish free; no dark knuckles or stretch marks. You know the beauty routines you are following or have tried out.
It is obviously stressful, sometimes painful and an expensive procedure to look on fleek at all times.
But the joy you get from the results of your efforts. Yass! you are flaunting your beautiful self, slaying with your squad and all, everyone is asking how you do it. You know how all these boost your confidence and makes you feel like the queen that you are.
Just imagine that after all this, your partner beats you black and blue following a disagreement or argument.
Your eyes have got circles around them, you are left with scars on your face and body. You now need to go around in dark shades and keep your head low as much as you can. Long sleeves and full lengths are your new favorite thing because you can’t explain the marks on your skin.
But you know you can’t give up on him because he apologized (like every other time), he promised to change (even though you have lost count of the number of times he has made that promise). He also brought you gifts or gave you some money to get one, just to show how sorry he really is. Besides, you guys have come a long way and you can’t leave just like that.
So, everyone is telling you to leave and how it is a toxic relationship. But they don’t and can’t understand, nobody can fully understand what you are going through. You believe you can change him. Even though you have lost your self-confidence and esteem. Whenever you are with him, you are extra cautious because you do not want to offend him. You do everything in fear of him.
You are no longer in touch with many of your friends because you are tired of explaining and defending him and your relationship.
Probably, you have considered a lot of things and you have decided it is better to stay. But have you thought about the damage this will have on you in the long run?
What if you get married and it gets worse? What if he beats you till you become physically incapacitated or even worse, lose your life?
Imagine raising children in such an atmosphere, how do you think they will turn out? What if they pick up the trait and turn out as adults who are also abusive?
Domestic violence is not something you have to live with, you can walk away. It is something that is common in many homes yet it is often overlooked, excused, or denied.
It is something that is common in many homes yet it is often overlooked, excused, or denied.
You may not want to see yourself as a victim of domestic violence but if your partner in an intimate relationship or marriage tries to dominate and control you, then you are.
An abuser will use fear, guilt, shame, and intimidation to wear you down and keep you under his or her control. Your abuser may also threaten you, hurt you, or hurt those around you. Domestic violence could be in the form of physical, sexual or emotional abuse.
However, an abusive behavior is never acceptable, whether it’s coming from a man, a woman, a teenager, or an older adult. You deserve to feel valued, respected, and safe.
Say NO to domestic violence, make the choice to leave every toxic relationship today. Because you deserve better.