Betrayal of marital vows is hurtful but when your spouse cheats on you there is one simple question you need to ask your self, do you want to stay or remain in the relationship or do you want to leave, if you want to stay and work thing out hear are tips to get through .
Finding closure: the first thing you need to do is have an open communication with your spouse, find out why your spouse cheated, how it started with tis person, what propelled it, instigated it and motivated it. Understand if its peer pressure,so you know encourage and become a strong support against wrong friends or society ideologies and try not to be biased you need to try and understand why he cheated and sort it so it does not reoccur.
Alone time: one critical step to forgiving your cheating spouse is sorting your self physiologically, take long walks , cry buy your self something you like relax and try to be happy alone, and ensure you reflect on if you are willing to forgive your partner, you are advised to spend time alone so you can heal from within it is only when you heal you can truly forgive.
The fit: this step is critical, because you need to find out if your partner still wants the relationship, if he wants to continue, if he still loves you dearly , at this point you need t take stock of your relationship, how special the person is, those cool things that work in your relati